It's dehumanizing to expect men to step up, be ambitious and intelligent.

I hate that women blame their loneliness/lack of a relationship on men not stepping up, not being college educated, not being successful and a lack of intelligence. Men always date down in this supposed "equal" society, why don't women date down? Also this idea that dumb and unambitious men are inherently toxic, is problematic. Drive and intelligence has zero reflection on the character of a man, bad men are evil regardless of drive and intelligence. Equality is realising that dumb and smart people have equal value. If you disagree, then we need to stop shaming men for their misogynistic toxic desires in women. If you espouse equality but get the ick because your man isn't as successful as you, this is a sign that you need therapy. Frankly if you get the ick at all, that means you need therapy because the ick dehumanizes men. Also caring about a man's ambition and success (if you're successful yourself) is a sign of gold digging, A successful man doesn't care about his woman's career. You're a dehumanizing and an insecure gold digger, if you care about your man's ambition. Finally, it's just funny that men's preferences are problematic and misogynistic but women's are not, It's seem like only women are allowed standards and can't be questioned but men must fall in line. Being a neet greatly affects men moreso than women, so we are done performing for women/society to fit their ideal narrative.