My boyfriend compared me to his abusive ex just because I said I can't give him money every time. Did I ruin everything? I'm feeling miserable, please help!

Yesterday, my boyfriend(26m) and I(23f) had a huge fight because I told him I can’t keep giving him money all the time. He recently got a job a week ago. I knew from the beginning that he’s not financially stable, but that has never mattered to me because I believe time doesn’t remain the same for anyone. We’ve been together since 2020, but whenever there’s a topic of money, he starts acting weird—he stops talking to me, ignores my texts, and behaves coldly. On December 24, we met because he came to my city for work. He was fasting, so I invited him for coffee because it was cold, and I wanted him to feel better and have some energy. While we were sitting at the restaurant, he asked me to show him my PhonePe balance. I denied it at first because I knew if he saw it, he would spend it somehow. But he insisted, so I showed him. I had ₹3,500 left in my account. As soon as he saw it, he started saying loudly, “You’re not buying me this?” He wanted a T-shirt for the gym. I refused initially and tried explaining that I had saved that money, but he started creating a scene, saying, “You’re not buying it? Why?” People were staring, and I felt embarrassed. I asked him to talk slowly, but he said he only had one gym T-shirt and couldn’t keep wearing the same one every day. So, we went to a shop, and I bought him the T-shirt. He was happy and even said thank you then I went home. Later on next day he asked me to pay for his tea, saying his account balance was in the negative, and I paid without saying anything he sent me a number and asked me to transfer money for his tea , and I did that without questioning him. That night, he mentioned his birthday in January. He said he didn’t want anything special but then asked me to buy Ayurvedic ingredients like ashwagandha and safed mulethi etcto make a diet powder for him, which would cost around ₹1,500. He also mentioned that his grinder at home was broken, so he wanted me to prepare the powder at my place and give it to him. At that point, I told him it was too much because I had saved that money for myself and couldn’t afford to spend all of it on him. What hurts me the most is that, in all these years, he has never made any special effort for me. He hasn’t given me a single gift on my last two birthdays, anniversaries, or even Valentine’s Day. His excuse is always that he doesn’t have money or that Valentine’s Day is a Western tradition and a waste of time. On his last birthday, I even asked him to at least stay awake till midnight, but he didn’t. I’ve never demanded anything expensive just his time, love, and effort. On the same day, he sent me a picture of a hoodie in evening and asked if I was buying it for him?. When I didn’t reply, he deleted the messages. That night, I sent him a polite paragraph explaining that he should learn money management and that I can’t keep giving him money. I told him I’m not earning and can’t keep asking my parents for money every time he needs something. I thought he’d understand, but I was wrong. He got upset and said, “What’s the point of saving if you can’t help someone in need?” He accused me of being selfish and greedy. What hurt the most was when he compared me to his ex. He said his ex was better because, once, she gave him ₹800, which was all she had. He said she was “pure-hearted,” while I’m “clever and greedy.” This is the same ex who, according to him, used to abuse him. Now he says leaving her was a mistake. I couldn’t believe he was comparing me to someone from a one-year relationship when we’ve been together for almost five years. He said that he spent money too, that he’s always spent more than his means on me traveling 450 km, buying chocolates, flowers, and all that. I’m not saying he never gave anything, he did, but isn’t this just the bare minimum? He had to meet me too, right? My friend said these are just bare minimum things and I should know my worth. I’ve done so much for him and forgiven him so many times, but this time, he’s wrong, and all of this feels problematic from his side. But was I supposed to meet him alone? And flowers? I’ve only ever received two roses in all these years. Chocolates? That’s the bare minimum. He even said I should ask my parents to find me a rich guy because “all I care about is money.' I even apologized, thinking maybe I was wrong. But I’ve always helped him. I once gave him ₹2,000 to repay a friend for rent. I’ve supported him emotionally and financially, even when he lied to me multiple times. But yesterday, he said so many hurtful things. He said I made him feel poor, that he hates me now, and that he doesn’t want to see my face ever again. He said he doesn’t want someone like me who helps just for show. Now I’m questioning everything. Did I ruin my almost five-year relationship with that paragraph? Was it wrong of me to ask him to manage his finances properlu ? My friends are saying I’ve done nothing wrong and that he’s the problem. They think I’ve been giving him money to keep him emotionally available, but he’s not even emotionally supportive. They say if he doesn’t have money, he should learn to manage within his means instead of asking me repeatedly.I dont have any problem in helping in serious issues but this time he compared with someone One who used to abuse him I asked him then why did you left her he said it was a huge mistake and she was much better than me . I love him, and I thought we’d enter 2025 together, I was ready to fight for him to marry him. But now, I feel completely broken.I don't hate him i wish best for him ,i hope he gets his US visa and everything he wished for , My mind is not processing this whole thing,Did I ruin everything by saying I can’t always give him money? Was I really wrong here? I'm thinking if someone will ever truly understand and love me the way I yearn to be loved. I invested everything in this relationship, supporting him through thick and thin. Yet, the person I deeply loved now despises me, seemingly only caring about money. All my efforts, all my love, seem to have been in vain, I'm sitting in class, struggling to hold back tears. We were supposed to meet today, but now everything is ruined. I prayed for our marriage, did foolish things in the name of love, and what did I get in return? Accusations of being selfish and greedy. It's heartbreaking I thought he was the one, but once again, I was proved wrong!