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  • Victim Blaming 101 (The Day My Professor Lost the Plot)

    Im 18(F), doing my bachelors. We have a class for speaking skills and the teacher (F) who would be around the age of 45-50 was lecturing about how body language is important to present yourself in a work space. The conversation suddenly changed into "the way women dresses". She kept preaching about how women/girls wearing crop tops or backless tops "invites" men. (DIABOLICAL FOR A FEMALE TEACHER TO TELL THAT IN A CLASS FULL OF GIRLS) and how women should stop dressing in a "certain" way to stop the harrasment which happens against them. She also told us to wear those "crop tops and backless tops" within our family so that we can feel secure and not when we are outside cas it would tempt men and if it does tempt them, apparently they might pinch us or harass us. It didnt stop there, she sounded like she is shifting the blame onto the victim, especially with how they present themselves. Another thing she said was how she dosent allow her son to have long hair, piercings or to colour their hair cas apparently its how gay people used to represent themselves before the legalisation of lgbtq community. What does colouring your hair or getting a piercing has to do with your sexuality ? Make it make sense. She also talked about how couples are nuisance to public places and how PDA is allowed in India. Her defenition of PDA was a wife sitting beside their husband. She was sexualising hugs and handshakes, saying that these actions can be casual in a western setup but not to our "Indian culture". She talked how hindu families are progressing forward with regard to treating their daughters after puberty and how muslims are still regressive when it comes to "mingling" the genders. She also mentioned how christian families dont treat their daughters differently after they get their first period. The fact that shes comparing religion made me laugh at the abusurdity of her statements. It was degrading to sit through the whole class to listen to her nonsense and how she blames women for the assault which happens to them. The victim blaming was CRAZY. I dont think any student would trust her anymore after all this speech. Our faculty wouldnt care if we report either. None of us said anything against her or even stopped her. Well most of the students didnt realise the intensity of her statements cas they were also brought up that way, they are ashamed to talk about menstruation or any social issue for that to matter. Heck, they dont even want to be in college and its quite tiring to be stuck with those people. There are very few who actually found the flaws in her opinion, but we didnt dare to speak up cas she is so rooted in her opinions that it will take an eternity to put some sense into her. Shes a great professor, kind one ofc but her lecture today made me see her the way she actually is but i do want to knock some sense into her or our dept idk wtf shuld i do.
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