I want to move out eventually. Being bossed around kinda sucks.

I don't want to be a neet who relies on anyone. I want to get to the point where I can shut myself away, and live on my own terms. It's getting harder and harder for me (early 20s), to tolerate energy vultures, who tell what to do like a child or slave. The way I'm treated at times makes me feel stupid, unheard, and I get very pessimistic towards people. I get it, chores are important. But when you're constantly down my throat about not finishing shit I already completed, it gets a little fucking taxing sorry. How can I be positive/happy, when people around me are CONSISTENTLY negative or stressed? I seek independence and minimal negativity.