Kashmiri matrimonial market

Does anyone feel that Kashmiri matrimonial spaces are very limited? Like you'll hire a matchmaker and he'll bring all sorts of "parche" without asking what are the requirements of the person to be married. Whether you want a short wife or a tall wife, a sarkari mulazim or a businessman, etc. All the discussions are done by parents who give their personal preferences for their would-be nosh/zamtur. The space is even more constricted for women because these matchmakers hardly talk to them, they look at their pretty faces, check out their height and weight, and that's it. Men, I guess, are atleast asked whether they want a working wife or a housewife lol. I really want to cry out loud right now.

Please share your harrowing experiences (or good ones). I'd love to hear that I am not the only one suffering.