Single 38 and felt this is the place to vent

Never felt alone in any valentines day and actually never cared for a relationship. Had a very orthodox upbringing so girls were never in the picture... Decent looking worked out most of the time so always in decent shape... Had a heart break very early in life early 20s and got childish and felt girls are vile beings . Made enough money now to not work having to work rest of my life. But last few years have been getting little lonely , but again relationships feel like lot of work especially when I already have set routine for my almost middle age... and being on and off shy also doesn't quite help... what to do now... how to find a partner at this age ... Hyderabad especially isn't know for proper dating even at young age forget about late 30s... I have looked at matrimonial matches and I get intimidated about having to say know after meeting just once where I cannot know if she is a match...