I need some life directions as I feel stuck in life for 6 years

I really would appreciate it someone can give me basic directions in life for careers and education wise. So I'm 28 now, I've not had a proper job my entire life. I've been jobless for over three years now and during that same time I also stopped attending college because I have no clue what path to choose. About five years ago, I'd taken few driving lessons but it didn't go well as I got in minor crash which just took away all my confidence. Still this day it haunts me like I feel deep down my confidence is stuck there and is seems to affect my overall life. Even though my birthday was yesterday I didn't felt any happiness because this feeling has been occuring for the last 4-5 years. I seem to avoid social situations. I don't even talk to my own family members who tried to wish me on my birthday. Because this feeling of shame and anxiety is deeply rooted. I have no identity and status. Everytime my family would talk in the past, they kept asking okay so what you do? And I have no clue what to tell them. My family has been telling me just go learn driving. Just go to college and talk with career consouler. Find any side job. Go outside and make friends. Sighs even I know this, but I don't know why am I not doing this. Why is that I'm still living in a fear anxiety and self doubts. I've already wasted my early 20s.