Reality is different from online

Yesterday a delivery driver was having difficulty spoting our house, he was a kannadiga, I was a kannadiga but he initiated the conversation in Hindi. Through his accent I realised he isn't a native Hindi speaker and asked him if he was kannadiga, he said yes. I went to a snacks stand near cubbon park and the owners were kannadigas, I was kannadiga but they initiated in Hindi but were speaking in kannada amongst themselves. The watchmen in my friend's apartment only knows hindi and not any other language so everyone should speak to them in hindi. I guess banglore is becoming like Mumbai where two Marathis will converse in hindi first instead of Marathi. I felt a little sad because we have to converse in a different language in our own state. Contrary to all the hatred online, the reality is very different. Everywhere you go there's Hindi more than kannada. So I don't understand all the hatred ? When the reality is different, hindi is used and pushed everywhere, what is all the kannada hatred about ? Edit : to any Hindi speakers who take this personally, this isn't about hindi hatred. This is about how the reality is very different from whatever is happening online.