Married but dead almost!Why atul Subhash wasn't alone!

Married a north Indian gal ( kind of felt bad that she dint have parents) and im a south Indian and I love blore. During initial years of marriage I realised red flags about my wife and her family[ mom's sister and hubby brought her up as her mom expired and father abandoned them] But I kept ignoring thinking I'm jus apprehensive! We have a kid now and my wife isn't willing to move out of their house and I spent a year there after her delivery becz she feels baby Wil grow up there safely and her aunt and uncle are also happily willing to keep her. My wife says her friends hubbies all have moved to in laws house to raise babies.. Is that a thing now?? Is it really happening? She seems like doesnt wanna get out of comfort zone..although my so called in-laws house is in premier place in delhi but it's small and it's so congested and I hate delhis weather and I had bad experiences at work for 2 to 3 years. So I moved to.blore..my wife is now threatening me to give divorce becz I ditched her and went to blore!! I mean wat else I cud do..I dont wanna.be a Ghar jamai and I wanted to earn well for my baby ! But now I'm the villain! Somtimes I feel.like giving divorce but somtimes I feel bad about my baby ( becz my wifes brother is mentally ill as he grew up due to her aunts torture ) I'm seriously mortified now! My babies voice echoes in my ears and his way of saying papa brings me tears! But I hate being disrespected there and stayin in in laws house! My wife is obsesed with the uncle and keeps praising him every second becz he brought her up and it's always about them but never about us or our family or future!. I'm so confused!