Secretly gay men who married women due to society's stigma, how is life after marriage?

I was unaware of how many gay men are pressured into marrying women. This stems largely from societal stigma and the topic being taboo. Additionally, a lack of understanding about what it means to be gay contributes to the problem. My own understanding of the frequency of these situations grew significantly after a conversation with a gay acquaintance. He shared details about his dating experiences, including meeting many middle-aged men on Grindr who were married with children. One particular example that struck me was a soldier (army or CRPF) he'd meet whenever the man returned from leave. Despite being married with a young daughter, the soldier would book hotel rooms to spend time with my friend. This situation saddened me, both for the wife being betrayed and for the soldier, who was forced to conceal his true identity and live a lie. These kinds of arrangements are incredibly damaging to everyone involved, and I've since learned they are far more common than I realized.