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Need help deciding where how my next six months will shape my future
So, i (F, 22) am currently pursuing my B. Tech in Chem E from a pretty good college in India. I was supposed to graduate college a year ago but a lot of things fell out of place in succession during the latter half of 2021 that it took me 'til late 2023 to get out of my depressive episode. The thing is, during the time I needed a break for myself, I was unable to upskill myself with regards to anything that'd make me employable. I have also realised that I like/have interest in a very small portion of my engineering degree. I'm currently in the last semester of my college and I have the option to do my project work (a requirement to graduate) from home. As in, i'd be working with another college from my own uni and from what I gather my project will be done more on my laptop than being present physically. I also have a subject backlog that I need to complete in the next six months to get awarded my degree. But I happen to have the option to do it either offline or online. This is where my dillema lies. So, the thing is I don't currently live with my parents and happen to have an apartment for myself about 8kms from my student town. It's quite isolating, living alone,,, I also will happen to have only 4 days a week which means I'll have too much free time. My fear is that much free time will just make me spiral down into having a minor depressive episode that'd just hinder my chances at doing anything productive in the next six months that are very crucial to me. TLDR: need help deciding where I stay for the next six months. So I can be up skilled and career ready soon. Pros (of living at home/ away from uni) : > I get to spend more time with my mum (my mum's on a work break for the next three months) >I get home cooked meals and will not be malnourished. + I'd be living in cleaner conditions + won't have to worry about money/budgeting for another six months > I also will get a certain motivation that's been lacking to do something when I'm berated (for the lack of better word) on an almost daily basis. > the chances of me slipping into downright depression is kinda low ig? > will get to work on things at my pace—which is an either/or situation for my ADHD(diagnosed, BTW) brain (idk, how good this is as a thing rn) > would be able to form a routine even if it isn't how I'd like it? >would be able idk,,, work on/use my 2am motivation to get my life back together well as the environment is clean. >extra small con: id get a good queen sized bedroom that's extra soft (would also get to kick my brother out hehe) Cons (of living at home) > I'll have to sacrifice a huge chunk of my freedom—the one I work hard to get ( i won't have a curfew+ would get to smoke, drink fuck etc) I also have a slight nicotine addiction and staying here would cause withdrawals. > I also technically won't have a social life for six-ish months. My parents always find it easy to find problems with my friends and going out for two days in a row is a crime according to my grandfather. > I will have to sacrifice a good amount of mental health, ig? > I'll have to deal with lot of berating from my family's end but it's something I've dealt with for 19 years like it'd cost my mental health but I don't think I'd have a spiral cuz of loneliness yk. And also feel maybe just maybe accountability would be good for me? > I don't know if I'll end up spending most of my time lazing around and watching too much content or doing the said work yk (id be doing the same at uni too ig? But id be going to 4 hours of classes a week) > I will have to follow my father's schedule of waking up by 6:30 and sleeping in by 9:30 > I don't know if I'm sacrificing a good amount of networking (with classmates/professors) by staying at home > my college insurance offers me therapy and I've started taking. I have weekly sessions and maybe that'll help me better with understanding myself > I have a fear that, if I end up back home I won't leave again? So rn, it's a toss up between physical comforts and accountability or,emotional comfort and hope that I don't spiral downwards lol,pls help if you think you can help me1
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