How to make my husband understand that I(30F) cannot live with his mother.

I(30F) have been married since 2 years. Both of us come from different cultural backgrounds and his side of the family is very regressive and patriarchial. Recently I and my MIL had a fight over me wearing shorts at home, where my husband took a stand for me. In past 2 years, he might have done it like 10% of the time all the other times, I had to bow to his mother's wishes. She doesn't want me to go to my parents' home for more than 3-4 days when we go to our hometown for 2 weeks, I can't even wear a jeans when I am at her home and wear sarees when she wants me to irrespective whether I am comfortable or not. In their family, a woman is not supposed to touch anything in the kitchen when she is on her periods. And if she does then my MIL will not touch that food. My husband wants me compromise on this situation and do as his mother wants, I have been doing it since past 2 years if during my periods we visited her and she visited us but I cannot do it any longer, as I find this practice very regressive. My husband keeps saying that I took a stand for you but you won't do anything for me. The problem is it doesn't affect him so he cannot understand that. His cousin's wife who is pregnant wasn't even allowed to visit her parents' house when she came home for Diwali, so it is highly possible that his family would want me to do the same and I cannot do it. I explicitly told my husband that I can't live with his mother but he is still insisting on us living together. He accuses me of thinking about only my mental health and not his. All I know is, if she lives with us permanently, I won't be able to survive. I don't want him to choose, I will willingly step away.