i cant live in real life

most of the time im either reading or watching animes but whenever i think about real life i get kinda sad. theres nothing about the grind that i like. everyone wants to get an education, a job, a house, a family, and thats it? how are normal people just not fucking miserable all the time with the tedium? going to work is miserable, sitting in traffic is miserable, groceries are miserable. every second im away from my computer i want to return back to it, but most people seem happy enough to smile and make small talk. how is it they can do that? id like to learn how since i cant be a neet forever.