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How many of you (daughters only) support your parents financially? 33F here.
I grew up in a dysfunctional family. Highly patriarchal. I was emotionally abused, beaten alot during my childhood. All i could dream was to run away from that family. But if only it’s easier to do that in India, to cut ties with family. Dad never had a stable income despite having education and academic qualifications. Was too lazy to stick to anything. My entire education, including PhD was subsidised, I got scholarships etc. i got married to a guy who almost bore 60% of the wedding expenses. In short, dad never had to bear any major expenses for me. But he did so for his son, education loan, his wedding etc. Now that I am earning a decent amount, the day i landed a job, first demand my dad had that I should deposit 10k into his account. I couldn’t deny, it’s been 2.5 years now. Brother is earning as well, but he doesnt do shit for parents so it all comes down to me. Now my own parents feel like a burden to me. I hate that i am not even close to them anymore and I am mere an income source for them. A cash cow. I feel exploited. Even if i am a day late to deposit an amount i get a call or message from my dad for the money. Note that live in tier 3 town so 10k is enough for now. But i have put my foot down with not a rupee extra than that. I still feel so disheartened looking around myself when people have supportive parents who are not dependent on them. They are emotionally close. And i got nothing at all. I wish I had guts to deny at the same time when he asked for money at the first time. But i got emotionally blackmailed. I feel bad for my mum and i try to convince myself that i am doing this just for my mum but still. Idk, any word of consolation will be helpful atp. Thanks1
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