Need an opinion about Guru cause I have doubts

My husband has a Guru, he is a Maa Tara mandir's pandit, he is knowledgeable, but I really doubt cause of something he said, He was in our home for a pooja, husband and his mother were discussing something, I just had a query related to my birth chart on which he didnt say anything he didnt even say no, now just few seconds after that he started lecturing me in front of everyone as to how I should be a good daughter in law and how I ought to have a guru diksha, he was also saying that if I do Jaap my kid will follow otherwise he will leave us to die and won't care about us, if I do this then I will have control over my kid and how its my responsibility to take care of my family's respect, I didn't exactly say anything but the way he said was very taunting and it was kind of unnecessary comment cause he doesn't know me personally and then he was like "chhote raho sabka pyaar paao, bade hoke kya karna, Sona chandi pehen lenge lekin Marne ke baad toh raakh hi hona hai, bhagwaan Kripa se itna sab kuch hai isko aur expand karo etc etc" I don't want to sound entitled here but my views towards him have changed i used to respect him a lot but after this and I really don't want to take guru diksha from him, after pooja got over he was pretty insistent that I take guru diksha from him... I know I'm not entitled to a guru, neither my karmas are good enough to find a great one, but are my feelings justified? Are gurus like that and I'm overreacting? And does him being ny husbands guru really allow him to just give lectures to anyone be it me or anyone else?