How do you become street smart and build awareness ?

I’ve been raised in foreign country yet I just feel like as a gujji, I still lack that fundamental skills of being one. Like pretty much all of my cousins are extremely so smart and clever. Able to problem solve quickly and have this extensive knowledge about many areas of life from fitness to finances to careers and have overall good communication skills. Able to negotiate and verbally able to fight if needed. But sighs, I don’t seem to have any of this sort strengths. I don’t know what I want in my life and don’t even have friends at this age. Constantly seem to be living in anxiety fear and shame. Which as created low self esteem. It’s hard to communicate with fellow people because they always have the habit of knowing what are you doing in life. Always this common topics of college, career, business and marriage.