It feels so exhausting now

It is so upsetting to be a woman in a world where safety feels like a privilege instead of something everyone should have. It is frustrating to see people on Instagram use terms like "average feminist" as if it is an insult. Feminism is about equality and making sure everyone is safe and respected and not about hating on men. Some women even say they are not feminists, not realizing that feminism is the reason they have the freedom to share their opinions today. Without it, women would not have basic rights that we now take for granted. Feminism is not about hate or division. It is about fairness for everyone. What hurts even more is how people react to stories about women being raped or murdered, often by their own husbands or someone they trusted. Instead of showing sympathy, many start saying things like, "What about fake dowry cases?" or "What about the Atul Shubhash case?" These comments ignore the pain and suffering of women. Yes, the Atul Shubhash case is heartbreaking and some of those posts favouring his wife are also not right, and it shows why we need strict laws to protect both men and women, Both cases need attention and the victim should not be blamed here. In India, justice is not always fair to either gender. But using these cases to avoid talking about women’s struggles is wrong. Both issues are important and deserve attention, but one should not be used to silence the other. I have personally faced harassment more than ten times, and three of those times were by people I or my family trusted. That kind of betrayal is hard to process because it is not just about strangers behaving badly. It is about people you believed were safe crossing boundaries and making you feel unsafe. Sadly, these are not isolated incidents. If you ask any woman in your family or friend group, she will probably have many stories of harassment to share. The fact that this is so common is what makes it even more exhausting. What makes it worse is the way people blame women and dismiss their stories. All I want is to be treated like a human being. Is that really too much to ask for? Seeing the hateful and dismissive comments on social media is not just upsetting. It is exhausting. Women are always being asked to prove their pain and explain their fears, as if they are asking for too much. It should not have to be this way. Women deserve respect, safety, and fairness, and we should not have to fight for these things every day. We need a society where people listen, care, and take responsibility. Only then can things truly get better. I hope you get what I'm feeling rn. Sorry for ranting about it tho😭😭