Life Update since moving out

So today marks my 2 years of running away from family [(Old Post)](https://www.reddit.com/r/Chennai/comments/10gqgrq/moving_out_of_toxic_family/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button). I started with staying in hostel and then took a small house for rent and its been pleasant since then, though it feels lonely sometimes. I used to feel depressed staying alone because, the one thing I wanted and never had is to have someone who cares for me, and then reality hits that it won't be possible. Everything has its own pros and cons. So am getting used to it now, like slowly transitioning from "enakena yarum ilaye" to "en iniya thanimaye". I used to see people ranting about their state of life, lonliness and stuffs, so Instead making a rant post about me, I thought of sharing some insights for people so they can also get some mental peace in this new year. **Money = Independence :** If you ever want to move out of any toxic environment, your first step is to get financial stability. You need some running income only then I would suggest to take the leap. Don't take "moving out" decisions when you are in anger. Let it settle, think rationally, plan ahead for income and then leave. Because I did this couple of times and ended up going back to the same shithole. If you really want to move out, make sure you never have to go back to the same place. **Distance from parents :** Keeping distance from parent is good in many ways, even if you have very caring parents. Too much care and affection mostly make people to stay in their comfort zone, hard to have the mental strength to take risk, stand for their own. And all these will stack up more and more, and at some point of life you will feel frustrated. You only live once, So get out of your comfort/toxic zone and do something. **Responsibilities & Discipline :** Staying alone means taking care of everything ourselves. Things need to be properly organized. I procrastinate some stuffs and end up in a chain of effects due to that. Like cleaning the kitchen every day, Prepping food in advance, groceries stuffs, etc. If I skip cleaning kitchen, I end up skipping eating or order food (more cost), and more frequently it happens ending up with some illness. I am trying my best, and still haven't reached a proper routine yet. **Passion gives you direction :** Having a passion keeps you moving in your life. I have my interest in futuristic technology, and I feel motivated to do anything in that. I kept my passion as first priority which eventually helped me financially. So money is a secondary for me, not a primary goal. I sometimes get hopeless, burnout and loose motivation to proceed. But at the end I go back doing it again. Being unhooked from all types of relationships gave me less commitments, and more time for myself. So that my story, hope it help you guys. If anyone needs to vent out or talk, feel free to dm. Stay strong, keep hustling for what you desire, and a Happy new year. Ps. I hope mods don't delete this post. I'm posting here as a continuation of my older post.