Why is the indian marriage culture so annoying and have so many formalities?

I(27M) found out my parents made a profile on an app and paid money for wedding matches. I got really angry and a heated argument happened. I started yelling and also cussed. I don’t understand why the marriage system here is so damn fucking annoying. Relatives pestering about marriage like 10 times a month and whatnot. My parents are basically choosing the girl and rejecting them even though i never got any say in it. It’s like they want to marry the girl and not me. What annoys me the most the amount of formalities. You’re not just marrying a partner, you’re marrying your partner and their whole family. If your partner’s aunt’s brother’s wife or whatever the hell the relation is, is sick, you better call them or they will say “poocha hi nhi”. I have seen this bs with my sister’s marriage. I have to keep up so many formalities. I’m fine with my brother in law but why the fuck do i have to call some random relative of his i dont ever talk with? Indian marriages are basically a dick measuring contest about the parents finding the best possible partner while the child has little to no say in it. They will give you the illusion of having freedom, but if you suggest any person you like, the mother will start the typical “main mar jaungi agar aise kiya” bullshit. Also the amount of double standards practiced is insane. A girl drinking alcohol is not fine, a girl who had a past relationship is not fine. But it’s okay for guys. My parents said that shit. It’s so fucking annoying, at this point I’m just venting. Over the past one year i realized my parents are on the same level of backwards mindedness as the rest. I always thought they were different, guess i was wrong.