What do you guys think about men and their family who don't allow women to work after marriage and they are clear about it from the time before marriage?

There are families who don't want a daughter-in-law with job. They are clear about it upfront. Technically speaking it's part of the deal and the woman is aware of it before getting married. That she can't pursue a career and would have to spend her entire life doing household chores But then after some years she realizes she wants to pursue a career, many times besides handling her household responsibilities and some times no longer wanting to do those chores. And the husband along with his family disagree. So who's in the wrong? What's your opinion? Especially let's say if you are a man who wants a housewife, this is common even among educated men. I personally feel like it's abuse but then again it was part of the deal. This is also why I feel like being a housewife can never quite be part of the equality ideology. Story time here, My pg owner is one such woman. Got married at 19. Finished her graduation after marriage. Where she is from it's common to get married off early. Now after 15-16 years of marriage, she finally gathered enough courage to want to pursue teaching. She just wants to enroll in the course with her own money earned from the pg. She is not even considering going to her home state to teach before another 5 years. Her in-laws were completely against it. She even begged her husband by groveling at his feet. One day when they were fighting the man even hit her in anger. Even not considering the physical violence, I can't imagine any of this not being abuse. Although yes he was upfront about not wanting a wife without a career. Btw at the very end after begging a lot, her husband agreed. And she did enroll in the course to finish her pg and then b.ed. But at that young age, conditioned to not have a say of her own in her marriage, was that even a choice?