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How to be okay with your parent prioritising others over you
I (22f) am currently not in a good mental place. In fact, it is the worst i have ever been. Everything acts as an emotional trigger. So i need to learn how to deal with the fact that I am not my mother’s first priority. Most of her day is spent talking with her sisters and other relatives on phone. She does not have a good relationship with my father and now it seems like she doesn’t care about us too. She will talk to me but only when i will take initiative otherwise she is happy spending time in a little bit of house chores in morning and after 3 pm just talking to everyone on phone or sleeping. She will be there when i cry and actively go seeking her comfort but she will not come to me on her own. She returned from a wedding 3 days back and I’m on bedrest most of the time due to injury but not once has she sat by me asked me how i am doing. What hurts the most that a day before she was going, she said “ beta tumhara bohot khyal nahi rakhe, lekin ab hum saara khyal rakhke tumhe theek karenge” She has been sleeping next to me since 3 days but has only spoken to me whenever there was any work, rest she is on phone with mausis talking about the wedding. It hurts so much that she has time and energy to talk about the same thing, word by word with n number of relatives but not even a minute to sit with her children. Today, i felt dizzy and my brother took care of me but she is in another room watching reels and gossiping. I am sorry for the rant but i am tired of crying over this everyday. I feel i might be overreacting because i see so many people who arent best buddies with their parents but they are okay with it, atleast i can go and cry infront of my parents, these guys don’t even have that kind of bond. So yes, i need some practical tips on how to be okay with this. How to reduce my attachment and expectations and just stop crying over this issue. I feel like a fool5
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