For those deeply connected to their feminine side: How did you get there?

So I am someone who is in their early 20s and is trying to find what is true meaning of femininity. I think terms like alpha-male, sigma etc are thrown around in an immature manner, but I'd say alot of males are still somewhat curious about knowing what is the Ideal Masculine form. But i think there is lack of fruitful discussions around femininty, as in whatbis the ideal female. I personally think that, genuine discovery into this subject will start when we will first have women who are extremely secure with themselves, something that we as humanity is currently finding ourselves insufficient it. Only after that will I think we will be able to have people who are able to understand and later practice the most authentic expression of femininity. So if you think that you have been able to understand this part of humanity, which is currently very less discovered, then please, tell us in your words, what is the most fulfilled female is according to you. What is femininty in your words, how can a young girl tap into this part of herself that she feels inadequate in?